Hi, my name is Val Ball. I am a Certified Transformational Life Coach, specializing in relationship coaching. I have over 20 years of experience mentoring, supporting, and gently challenging staff and clients in the human services field. Transformational Life Coaching is a natural extension of my desire to help people grow healthier, happier, and more empowered while challenging the barriers to positive change. I am a natural-born listener, and have always been fascinated by relationship dynamics. As a semi-introvert, I have an appreciation for the quiet people, and have always sought to connect deeply with people I come in contact with. I’m the kind of person who is most likely to be found deep in conversation with one other person at a party.
For 17 years, I lived very closely with 100 people in an intentional community, which was an excellent training ground for all sorts of relationships! I am particularly interested in the dynamic of attracting “toxic” people – how to recognize when a relationship has become unhealthy, how to set boundaries and be treated in a respectful way, and when it might be time to cut someone loose. I am happy to report that, as I’ve gotten more skilled at recognizing these signs in my own relationships, I no longer invite people into my personal life who are going to drain my energy in an unhealthy way. While living in community, I did interpersonal mediation for individuals and couples to help them communicate more clearly and constructively. I also served as a founding member of a group providing mental health services for community members in crisis. And, living that closely with that many people for that long brought up some of my own issues, which I was fortunate enough to be able to address and transform within a supportive environment. Having experienced my own “dark night of the soul”, I have empathy for others who are going through stressful times, and am not afraid of strong emotion!
Becoming a Life Coach
While living in community, I was able to pursue my passion for social justice by working with women and children experiencing domestic violence. When I left community in 2004, I worked for 10 years at a homeless shelter in Boulder, Colorado, providing guidance for staff and mentorship for individuals transitioning into housing. These experiences taught be the value of being direct while also being kind, and how to work with a myriad of different personalities and abilities. Having spent so much time with people on the “shadow side” of society developed my compassion, empathy, and, as survival skills in these fields, irreverence and sense of humor! Working with highly traumatized people gave me an appreciation for the resilience of the human spirit. It was an honor to be trusted with their stories. I am down-to-earth, intuitive, and care deeply about the well-being of my clients. I am skilled at creating a safe container for personal exploration and development, and serve as a gentle guide out of the shadows and into the light. I am eager to share my wisdom, advice and feedback with individuals and couples who are seeking clarity, acceptance, transformation and support.